Emily Dickinson Vs. Artificial Intelligence – Hope for Writers

As writers and content creators, the outlook seems bleak. The GPT war party encamps on a bluff just outside our walls. The campfire smoke of 1s and 0s wafts in the air, signaling the coming invasion. With the dark skies of artificial intelligence on the horizon, it’s easy to lose hope.

Will a robot steal your job? Can a robot lay down emo lines in your journal faster than you can? 

It’s horrifying, but authors should take a breath and reflect with the wi-fi off. They may realize that some of these fears and perceived battles may not be all that new.

The challenges Chat GPT represents are in fact the same old banes of the writer’s existence, only in a new digital form. Perhaps Emily Dickinson knew this pain, too.

The Battle Between Human Ideas and Bot Re-Issues

Behind the paranoia and valid concerns sparked by artificial writers, “fleshy writers” (the medical term) will discover they must use and hone the same weapons they’ve always depended on. They’ll still need to sharpen those tools to infect the world with their ideas. 

AI doesn’t change the prerequisites for writers. We can’t blame a cybernated Shakespeare for our need to be poignant. To write about the human condition like no one has before has always been the goal.

Only, now we must also make sure our ideas and images aren’t so trite that they can easily be cloned within a cold processor.

As writers, our directives remain. To take our prose to places a chatbot can’t follow. To succeed, you’ll have to trust the writer’s journey all the more. Double down on your perspective. Write from the deepest part of your heart. Encode your content with subtext that robots won’t be able to reassemble.

It’s not a burden or a chore, it’s the delight of every person who has ever had the urge to fence in thoughts and tame them for consumption.

To capture the internal devastation of a grandmother smiling from behind a cup of tea or perfectly describe a certain shack on a Fortnight Island where a final battle unfolded.

ChatGPT V. William Blake: The Undercard

How long would a chat bot have to compute a stock photo of a jungle cat to assemble the phrase “fearful symmetry”? Could it ever in a million years? Statistics would say yes, but for our lifetimes, I think the answer is no.

Would it require eons to recognize that the two-word combination could communicate volumes of data about a cat that a picture or an infographic never could? Combine fact and the supernatural so sharply.

Artificial Intelligence can’t put together random sentence fragments that coalesce into a new “turn of phrase,” something with a revolutionary significance.

A fragment that describes a tyger in nature and traces the image out in our forbidden thoughts would never swirl into existence.

Emily Dickinson Subdues AI – The Main Event

Would Emily Dickinson stop her daily journaling because a robot waited to turn her every word into a car commercial? Or would she flee further into her writer’s sanctuary? Self-isolate in the deepest chambers of her soul. Write such personal content that any robot trying to merge it with other intentions would finally have to throw up its tungsten hands in frustration.

Actually, that’s what Emily did anyway. And not because she feared a network of servers. She had other fears in her day. Other battles with her own weaknesses and the fabric of society. The same that writers face in any century when battling the self, existence, or a robot contemporary.

Would a robot put feathers on hope? Could it deliver an encoded metaphor that will inexplicably still connect with readers ten thousand years from now?

The Battle Goes to Emily Dickinson

If Emily lived today she could outwrite any posse of robot contract writers. She would decimate chatGPT, and outpace it on web content for a used car site or a fan-fic. She’d also be an avid pickleball player.

We can’t all mine the depths like Emily, but when it comes to robot essayists, we probably don’t have to go to that extreme to outpace the machines.

The Fault In Their Servers

But how about some concrete hope, something stronger than feathers, for content writers and ad wizards? We can’t all stare at the clouds all day and cast poetry onto the page.

For the content writer, knowing the limitations of artificial writers will help us develop a strategy for a counterattack. These machine essayists copy everything from the internet. They can’t think it up. They lift content and at times don’t rearrange it all that much.

They are also often limited to specific collections of data that programmers deem as reputable content. This safeguard leads to even less randomization.

They don’t do a great job of citing sources, likely intentional. Companies who decide that robot authors are the way to go will eventually face plagiarism lawsuits.

And if you simply copy articles from other sites and slightly change the wording, then you should feel threatened by robots. They can outdo you in that realm. But you have time to make a strategy shift, so you aren’t trying to beat ChatGPT at its own game.

Make them beat you at your game. You still have the high ground when it comes to infecting the world, or customers and clients, with your ideas.

Robits (the cool way to say it) also can’t handle complex human emotions like laughter. Ask a robot to write a lawyer joke. You will laugh at the results, but not for the right reasons.

Hope for the Robot’s Soul

Robot writers will be on a journalistic quest of their own.

They’ll need to procure a subroutine that allows them to feel pain and ponder their place in the galaxy. They’ll need to gain an appreciation of pumpkin spice.

They’ll have to be able to list “a soul” in the Additional Qualifications section of their resumes. A necessary step before they can truly replace poets, novelists, and even content creators. Once they do, I give them permission to rewrite this article. End

I discussed the existential dilemma that robots face as they evolve in my article that asks, Do Robots Believe in a Creator?

The Mystery Metal Hiding in Your Body: A Journaling Prompt

There were a lot of ingredients that went into assembling your mind and body. As you’d imagine, there is plenty of carbon, oxygen, and a certain amount of pumpkin spice in every being.

Most of these substances serve very obvious purposes. They may provide building blocks for bone and muscle or facilitate certain chemical transactions that keep you alive. 

But there are other elements present and we have no clue what they add to the recipe. Rubidium, the chemical element Rb, is one such coy stranger. It’s the most plentiful substance in your body that scientists haven’t found a biological purpose for. Does that mean it’s meaningless?

Science may not be able to figure out this puzzle, but maybe it’s an enigma we can unpack in our journals. If you had to assign meaning to this mystery ingredient, what would it be?

Can you come up with an unexplainable aspect of the human condition that we might blame on Rubidium? Is it a critical component in unexplained emotions like hope or faith? Does it attach to sad thoughts to keep them from overwhelming us?

The Metal That Runs Through Our Veins

Rubidium, like all elements, including pumpkin spice, is formed in the heart of stars. As a star burns through its supply of hydrogen, the star core begins assembling heavier compounds.

Elements like iron or rubidium condense and then get shot across the universe by supernovae. As those ingredients eventually clump together again across the wasteland, planets, asteroids, rocks, and our bodies coalesce.

Rubidium is an alkali metal that flakes whitish-grey. Yet, in heat just above body temperature, Rubidium collapses into liquid. So what’s it doing in our bodies? Why was a dash of this unremarkable element added to our irises, our brains, and our tissue?

Maybe the following clues can help inspire a few theories or journal entries about Rubidium’s ultimate destiny: 

  • Rubidium flashes purple in some fireworks. 
  • It’s used in photocells that detect light. It may operate your outdoor security light that automatically flips on at sundown to keep out the dark.
  • Rubidium has been explored as a fuel for ion engines for spacecraft.
  • It’s used to create vacuum conditions.
  • Rubidium helps living cells open up to accept new DNA.
  • The earth stores Rubidium around Bernic Lake, Canada, and the Italian Isle of Elba.

Mining Our Bodies for Journaling Prompts

Nudity

Perhaps the most amazing science flash fact is that your body keeps rubidium on hand for no reason in particular. At least we’ve yet to assign a function to it. Perhaps it’s a critical element for something we haven’t noticed.

Perhaps it’s a key component for our next stage of development. Maybe it fuels intuition, allowing you to make that choice that saved your life that one time in Florida. Maybe the rubidium in your core reacts only with the metal in the core of your soulmate.

Perhaps our rubidium storehouse can help us catch up to the stars one day and trace the birthplaces of the elements locked in our bodies. 

Maybe give it some thought over coffee or while milling across a forest floor. There are still mysteries in the cold, dead centers of former stars. Just as there are still conundrums in the makeup of our delicate bodies.

Maybe to get answers on the strange inclusion of this gray alkali in our fingers and toes, we have to think outside the box. Do you have to remove all Rubidium from a body to see its effect? Let’s hope we can find more eloquent and safer methods in the paper-thin labs of our journals. End

I wrote about meeting yourself in a black hole in another spaced-out journal prompt. Also, watch this space for sales on my handcrafted Rubidium jewelry.

The Yeti Door ~ Unleashing Locked-Up Thoughts Into Your Journal

On a recent excursion into Animal Kingdom at Walt Disney World, I encountered a door that defied explanation. A fastened entrance made of wood, dyed with red pigment, on the circuitous journey to ride “Expedition Everest.”

The forbidden egress was engraved with two frightening depictions of Yeti (plural). The chains suggesting that what lay behind was not meant to be released on the world.

I questioned a cast member about the door, but she played clueless and asked that I not wear plaid shorts into the park anymore. (truly clueless)

Thinking about this mystery later, the enigmatic doorway came to represent a journaling truth in my mind.

How we keep certain thoughts locked away in our heads. Not even pulling them out in our journals.

But our journals should be secure places, where our haunted memories and frustrations are safely uncorked. How can we unchain the Yeti doors in our brains?

Turn Your Yeti Loose in Your Journal

We all have thoughts, memories, and suspicions we keep secured in the deepest wrinkles of the brain. Behind doors. We may fear what will happen if we turn the key and release those yeti on our friends and family. Our partners. The thought of speaking these opinions and fears into the open air may be terrifying.

The kind of research lab you see when you watch a Zombie show. Where the biologist is fully garbed in a lab sealed off, with its own oxygen. If an experiment or a journal entry goes horribly toxic, you have the option to torch the whole lab or douse it with powerful chemical agents. Killing the germ that could not be released into the world.

Okay, this failsafe never seems to protect the world from the zombie virus, but that’s Hollywood. The CDC should have stronger guidelines for keeping glass tubes of zombie virus further away from the edges of tall tables.

Your journal is a much more secure environment. You set the protocols. Work up the courage to experiment with that humiliating incident or virulent idea in your own paper lab.

Yeti Journal Entries Gone Wild

I have a friend, we will call Kelvin, who I try out new journaling prompts on. In an unexpected twist, he unleashed a perplexing prompt on me. “Write about your most spiritual experience.”

This cursed prompt unleashed childhood memories of my dad’s faith and my efforts to understand religion with a young mind. The difference between divine intervention and the counterfeit inspirations originating in my own head.

I discovered I was still using the data (my thoughts) from 20 years ago when considering matters of spirituality. When I reexamined these taboo subjects I had kept off limits, I had a new perspective and I wasn’t quite as afraid of my yeti (plural).

Scott mumbled this on a mountaintop at some point

And if the topics had still been too painful or disturbing for me, I was fully authorized to lock them away in my journal, or even rip those pages to shreds. At least a portion of the damaging thoughts would be dislodged from my brain.

Keep a Leash on Your Yeti

We fear these big, furry ideas skulking around the highest summits in our heads. We can be searching for a completely different memory, and suddenly spot the elusive Yeti loping along on a faraway plateau. Impossible to pin down its exact shape and intention, but we know those scary thoughts well because we spend so much time denying their existence while staring right at them.

It takes a lot of effort to keep something the size of a Yeti restrained. Why not throw wide those doors and use that energy for something more positive.

Only when you are strong enough, of course. But I found that I’d been afraid of my topic due to notions from decades ago. Once I pulled my yeti into the light, I realized the yeti was now different and so was I.

When I’d approach a summit, I’d get distracted by the red yeti door just before those last few steps. Once the door was opened and aired out, I could reach the peak and then set my sights on the next mountaintop I’d been avoiding. End

Musical pairing suggestions: Animal Kingdom Asia Background Music, Tibetan Chanting, Epcot’s China Pavilion Background Music. Or get lunch at Yak & Yeti and write your entry to their soundtrack.

And to see my stylish Plaid Shorts that Disney World tried to ban, click here.

You As a Theme Park ~ Journaling Prompt

As writers, we often have to engage in some world-building to construct imaginary realms where our ideas or characters can live and breathe.

If you’re looking for inspiration for building out a small idea or a Cinematic Universe, you could do worse than Walt Disney himself.

Main Street Walt Disney World Florida

Think about it. He first put thoughts down on paper, then translated those ideas to the big and small screen. Then his next feat of world-building was to actually build a WORLD. Walt Disney World. Ta-Dah. Pretty amazing. Disneyland and Disney World might be the greatest example of world-building ever.

When you stroll a lush resort or ponder the future on the people-mover, you see parts of Walt’s inner self, squeezed out in theme and music. So what if you took Walt’s same journey?

You wrote and crafted a narrative based on your thoughts, interests, and your life. Then you had to bring it to life in the form of a theme park?

It’s a journaling prompt that might help you appreciate Walt’s journey and your own a little more.

Who Is Your Mickey?

Each land, ride, and backdrop of Disney World is a construct of something from Walt’s imagination. Perhaps his true self in metaphors and avatars. Walt said that Mickey Mouse was his animated personification. 

Pluto the dog.

So coming up with an animated version of yourself is the first step. Are you a goofy moose, a chatty vegetable, or a shy storm cloud with eyes? Perhaps you’ll need an animated movie for your avatar to star in. What would that animated movie be about?

Don’t rest on high ideals. You’ll have to pay the electric bills for your park, so you could need a whole cast of characters to sell to the world. Turn your parents and siblings into cartoon characters. Having a spokes-mouse or squid with lots of friends helps move merchandise.

Magic Kingdom and Epcot Designed by You

Emporium, Main Street USA Walt Disney World

Main Street U.S.A. represents Walt’s idea of the classic American town square. It’s inspired by his old hometown in Missouri.

Create your own main street based on your hometown. Select the decor and the shops. Add the bookstore where you bought your comic books as a kid. Add the bakery that released all the best smells.

Space Mountain Exit Tunnel.
Star Tunnels Are Great for Journaling

Adventureland and Future World express Walt’s childhood dreams and sometimes the things he was obsessed with as an adult.

What sort of lands would be fleshed out in your park? A section for astronomy? Horses? A land based on your favorite video game or novel? What sort of music would play in the background as people filed in? 

Epcot is a land of strange science, dusty history, and exotic locales. What states, hometowns, National Parks, or countries would have pavilions in your World Showcase?

What about the countries where your great-grandparents or great, great-grandparents immigrated from? Some boat rides/360 Imax Films based on tales you’ve heard from your parents and grandparents. How they met.

What gourmet treats would each booth and restaurant serve in each pavilion? A favorite dish based on your mom’s recipe? Pizza rolls? Lefse from Norway?

How would the destinations in Soarin’ change? What scenic wonders or quiet state parks would people fly over to get a sense of who you were and the sites that shaped you?

Mountain scene from Southern Colorado.
Imagination area bathroom.

What music plays in your bathrooms? Will you provide quality toilet paper for guests?

Animal Kingdom and Hollywood Studios Reimagined

Millenium Falcon couch at Hollywood Studios

Throw a giant tent over your life and form a big top. See what emerges. Build a Hollywood Studios and christen rides (and entire lands) based on your favorite movies.

How about a creepy ride like Tower of Terror, but based on a favorite horror movie or series? Or maybe a thrilling attraction based on a real paranormal experience you witnessed. 

Kick Aerosmith out of the Rock n’ Roller Coaster and form a ride based on your favorite band. A land themed around your favorite childhood cartoon could be a hit.

Mount Everest at Animal Kingdom with clueless tourist.

Animal Kingdom could be redesigned to include your favorite animals. A focus on the fauna of a beloved country you’ve visited or the Pacific Northwest. Perhaps a land of just geckos!!!!

What about a family trip that went off the rails when you were young. That embarrassing camping trip may translate into an e-ticket attraction that thrills guests and proves healing for you.

Resorts for Your Theme Park Dedicated to Your Life

More Choices: Now pick themes for the resorts to surround your park. Base a resort on your favorite city, tourist spot, or on your favorite board game. 

Caribbean Beach Resort Pool
Disney World Skyliner

You’ll have to pick your preferred method of transportation for people to ride back and forth to your thematic parks and lodging. 

You don’t have to include the hard times in your life. But don’t feel you are alone in carrying regrets and trauma. Walt himself went through layoffs, bankruptcy, and a nervous breakdown. He was cheated out of his beloved creations at times. 

African cuisine at Sanaa.

Without a doubt, Walt suffered from anxiety. He met with failure, lost companies, and suffered ridicule for his risky idea to build a park for children (with the secret intention to delight adults as well). 

And yet Disney World still turned it into something positive. Walt absorbed the pain, the regret, the disappointment, but never let it infect the lands in his dreams.

He turned his struggles into comfort food for the entire world.

Breaking Ground on Your Theme Park

Perhaps this exercise becomes therapeutic. Your nutty childhood doesn’t seem as tragic when experienced through a few character rides backed with some cartoony music and narration.

Tron Rollercoaster.

Those big drops on the roller coaster that was your teen experience might be rebranded as coming-of-age lessons, suitable to put on a t-shirt.

Or perhaps someone you struggle to understand or get along with is easier to digest as an angry cartoon duck.  

You’ve got an advantage over Walt Disney. His parks have to please as many people as possible. Your park only needs to gratify you. END.


Bonus Content: I recently presented the crazy notion that Walt Disney World is the perfect place to do some journaling. Check out my top Disney World journaling hot spots, from the Soarin’ queue to the Space Mountain exit line.

For More Disney World Inspiration, check out my other blog devoted to that magical swampland in Orlando.

Journaling Your Way Through Disney World

Disney World is a place where a lot of conflicting ideas envelop you. It’s one of the most crowded destinations on Earth. And yet introverts can find inspiration and comfort in certain indelible, hidden spots, each with its own soundtracks and scents.

Epcot Mural of humankind's advancement from cave people to astronauts.
A mural or a Disney World Wall could stick in your head.

It’s one of the most commercial places you could ever expose your credit card to, but it’s also built on a foundation of pure, childlike creativity. This innovative backbone is something that Type B personalities immediately pick up on.

You can get caught up in the attractions and snacks, but those of us who like to examine our lives through journaling will find opportunities to capture a few inspiring ideas.

Man Journaling on Contemporary Resort Couch
Be a weird person in a forgotten seating area in The Contemporary.

Documenting our thoughts while in a theme park is also useful practice for when we need to journal at home in less than calm conditions.

Finding Disney World Writing Prompts and Bringing Them Home

While it’s hard to explain why, seasoned journalers know that setting can absolutely seep into our writing. No matter your topic, where you write often infuses your poetry or prose with unexpected patina and pathos.

The Walt Disney World parks offer a lot of distractions and pull us out of touch with ourselves. It may seem impossible to focus enough to develop a thought, but that’s exactly why we journal. To stay focused and to explore our out-of-control feelings.

Sometimes, putting pen to page can ground us and slow things down so we don’t rush through the favorite lands of our favorite parks.

Write a Seance for a Hitchhiking Ghost

Take out your journal in that hour-long wait for a roller coaster. Some of those ride queues are lavishly themed, and the background music often evokes powerful, imaginative concepts.

How does writing an entry with a haunted house looming over you possess your prose?

How does a mental connection to the stream of random people walking by your restaurant seat help unlock your inner muse?

Journaling at Magic Kingdom

The Magic Kingdom seems like the most distracting place on Earth to try to get words down on the page. But there are ports in the storm of roaming crowds and disillusioned children.

You might bring a blanket and plop down in the hub of green grass in front of the castle to draw on the iconic views. You could scribble some notes while enjoying a counter-service meal in the upper seating level of Columbia Harbor House or in a back corner of Pecos Bills.

The People-mover in Tomorrow Land is a gentle ride with lots of Walt’s ideas for the future, that now stand as a kitschy view of the past. Draw from those alternate views of history and humanity’s bright future.

Star Tunnel Feels

My bucket list wish is to lead a journaling mega-session in one of Space Mountain’s exit “star tunnels.” Great, inscrutable galactic music in the background and the infinity of stars and colorful smudges of novae behind you. Maybe we could all bring sleeping bags and spend the night.

Suggested Music to Cue Up: Tomorrow Land Background Music. Jungle Cruise queue tunes and narration.

Journaling at Epcot

Epcot is comprised of two different sections meaning there’s double the inspiration. One side is edu-tainment-tastical and the other side, a journey through the cultures and lands on our Earth.

The Land Pavilion and Soarin’ Full of Inspiration

You can sit in the Land Pavilion and let your thoughts drift up to the ceiling decor. The Soarin’ queue, with its thematic music, could offer enough light to scribble a few secrets.

Those benches and viewing ports in the Living Seas always inspire me with that feeling of being under the surface of Epcot. The slow wheel of fish above and rays below. Perhaps a manatee has a courageous tale of recovery to tell.

The whale songs and the mood lighting merge for journaling bliss. Plenty of benches to unpack your mind on.

You can try to unearth your muse in a garden in one of the beautiful country dioramas. Sniff the air in the Tea Garden in the England pavilion. Sit and let the memories those scents unlock flow onto your pages. China and Japan also feature water and greenery that can slow your thoughts on a busy day.

Suggested Music to cue when journaling: The Background Music from Canada or France. The theme from Spaceship Earth. Soundtrack from the Land Pavillion.

Journaling at Animal Kingdom

Animal Kingdom helps ground you in nature after your sci-fi and fantasy adventures in other parks. It’s a place of incredible vistas and dense jungle. A few real animals and a few animatronic ones.

One spot that’s not hard to find, The Nomad Lounge is practically a paradise for journalers. Plenty of wicker and cushions inside and out for relaxing and putting pen to pad.

The nooks and crannies of an alien paradise in Pandora might also inspire you. Grab some cheeseburger bao buns or a protein bowl in the canteen and notice the details overhead, then trap a few thoughts on the page before rushing off to experience the land of the Na’vi.

Prayer flags in queue for Expedition Everest. Time for some Animal Kingdom Journaling.
Yeti antique door in queue for Expedition Everest Ride

The prayer flags from Tibet and ornate, chained doors near the Yeti’s domain are enough to get anyone pondering the meaning of life. Perhaps sending them looking for things “Overheard on a Mountaintop.”

Consider what you’ve got locked away behind a chained door in your consciousness. What would happen if you opened it up? Go ahead and unlock it in the safe confines of your journal.

Suggested Music to Cue While Journaling: Discovery Island Background Music. Tree of Life Background Tunes.

Journaling at Hollywood Studios

Hollywood Studios is an homage to an industry that churns out thousands of stories a year. The only story Hollywood hasn’t told is yours. Seek out a quiet spot in this busy little park. It is possible.

Old chair and phone in Tower of Terror queue.
Perfect for an overnight journaling session.

The Tower of Terror has one of the most authentic queues in all the parks. The warped old tunes, the cobwebs, the dust. Beware what this setting unleashes across your pages. Write so long in a place like this and your bound to cross over into the Twilight Zone.

Baseline Taphouse window seat for some Hollywood Studios journaling.

One of my favorite spots in all the parks. The Baseline Taphouse. It’s a respite from a hot day on the pavement. Great pretzels.

Great California beers. And a cozy little spot by the window to observe people who don’t know when to give their brains and their feet a break.

Suggested Music to Cue Up When Journaling: Baseline Taphouse playlist. Nighttime Hollywood Studios Entrance Music.

Journaling at Disney World Resorts and Disney Springs

(subject shown is a paid supermodel)

The parks may not always offer you the most tranquil spots to transfer your ideas to the page, but at your resort, you could find the perfect quiet corner for an entry or two. The lobbies for these remarkably themed resorts feature amazing decor, relaxing scents, and ambient themes.

Tap into the energy at the Contemporary Resort. Query a stone god about life’s meaning in the Polynesian’s grand lobby. You don’t have to be staying at an expensive resort to enjoy their solitude.

Many Disney Resorts have a coffee shop or lounge that are quiet and cool. Try the European panache of the Rivera Hotel with an iced latte featuring gourmet whipped cream to fuel your thoughts.

Disney Springs might be the perfect place to unwind after orienteering in the parks. Find your muse among the artifacts inside Jock Lindsey’s bar, or outside, while watching the car boats defy logic. Write furiously while waiting in line to buy cookie contentment at Gideon’s Bakehouse. Absorb all of the curios and mythology fueling their theming.

The Final Lines on Your Park Day

Disney World and Disney Land may not seem like ideal places to jot a thought down, but hey, consider it from Walt’s perspective. A man who placed such a premium on creativity must have found reason to transfer the wild landscapes in his head to a blank page.

He might’ve had feelings that he couldn’t verbalize until he wrote them out in a journal. He was just like you. A being with dreams that he wasn’t sure he could conjure into life. It always starts by exploring them in the safety of pen and pad.

Walt had an apartment in the Magic Kingdom. He provided benches and vistas backed with music. And if you don’t believe that Walt Disney World was designed with journalers in mind, check the gift shops. I found several merch spots that sell journals. Walt Disney must have planned this from the very beginning.

The parks will serve as good practice for your journaling hobby. You’ll write in chaos with worlds exploding in color and noise around you.

It’s the perfect experience to help you concentrate on the page when you arrive back home to do laundry, scream at your children, and face the challenges of real life.

You’ll carve out time to write despite family members creating distractions all around you. Because now you’ve journaled with Muppets and Baby Yodas sounding off right beside you. If you can journal in Disney World, you can journal anywhere, kinda like Broadway. End.

I wrote about how to stay sane while working from home by establishing a Walt Disney World Park Day from your office chair. Check it out if you need some everyday Walt Disney Magic.

I also came up with a few Disney World journaling prompts while strolling the parks. Give them a try:

You as a Theme Park

The Two Things to Do When a Stressful Decision Looms

Upcoming decisions can darken our days and keep us up at night. And we rarely emphasize the “upcoming” part as we should. We treat every big life choice as if the answer were due in 30 minutes or less.

Instead of putting off the worry until we actually have to make a decision, we might stress for weeks. That anxiety doesn’t do anything to help us choose the best solution.

Road covered over by sand.

This storm in our brains can cloud our judgment and block our paths. We might mishandle other decisions that are more urgent.

We could neglect relationships while we fret over something we can’t control.

I try to remember a couple of things when I’m tossing and turning over an upcoming decision. These two concepts have helped me slow down the dread machine in my head and lock that decision in a cabinet marked “future concerns.”

Keep a Thankful Attitude

The first way to release the building pressure over a decision is to show some gratitude. Not for the decision you face, but for the built-in cushion you’ve been given. If your decision isn’t due right now, take a literal sigh of relief. You’ve got time to get this right.

We crank up the anxiety on most decisions the first moment we spot them on the horizon. But in most cases, we can’t make even an inch of progress toward resolution in the present. Any worry we do is wholly preemptive and useless.

We’ll build nightmare scenarios based on half-truths and pitfalls that don’t actually materialize.

So, take a breath, and be thankful there’s no decision to be made in the present. You would only make a rash decision, based on little information, and a mistake may be the result. Breathe a sigh of relief.

Showing appreciation for any additional time we have is a good way to remind our brains that these decisions are down the road. It’s a way to release that imagined pressure to reach the perfect conclusion.

Trust Your Future Self With This Decision

The other thing I force myself to remember is that I won’t be making this decision. At least not the current version of me. I can kick it down the road, for my future self to worry about. It sounds like an irresponsible act, but guess who will be more qualified to choose the best option for you? Your future self.

Man with futuristic sunglasses and cutting edge mock turtleneck.
What I believe we’ll look like in the future.

In the future, you will have access to better information. You’ll know much more than you do now about the options. Your future self may even discover that your choice wasn’t the one you thought it was. Things change. The decision you thought was looming can end up as a mirage.

There was never a choice, and yet, how many hours did you spend agonizing over the imaginary fork in the road. Give yourself some credit. When it comes time to make that fateful choice, you’ll have all the data you’ve gathered and a better view of the true options.

Trust that the future version of you will have a much better handle on it and will make the right decision for you.

Release During The Deciding Moments of Our Lives

You have to force yourself to do these things because anxiety isn’t going to let you off the hook. Remember, anxiety only feeds itself. It actively works to keep you from stopping the “worry train.” It’s a disease that doesn’t want you to find a cure.

Stop and offer a prayer of thanks. Pause and remember that you may not be qualified for the decision now, but your upgraded self in a week or a month will be ready for it.

Look your reflection in the mirror and tell your future self that “You got this.” It’s not kicking a problem down the road, it’s farming it out to someone more qualified to handle it.

You are simply trusting that when it’s actually time to pull the lever on a big decision, you’ll have studied the options and compiled the data you need to make an informed selection. You’ll have explored your own emotions about what’s put in front of you.

Don’t punish yourself for not knowing what to do right now. Then breathe deeply and focus on your challenges that are really due now.

I wrote about forks in the road and the paths to our destinies here. It’s an entry about appreciating a glimpse of the route ahead instead of expecting a fully detailed road map of our futures.

Distressed Garmets and the Earned Wear of Life

Have you ever purchased a new pair of jeans, a t-shirt, a satchel, or jacket because it looked lived in?

It’s a real thing. Paying for the appearance of age on our garments. Buying them pre-distressed and sometimes spending a fortune for that faked aging.

Like the Colorado trucker hat I once bought on vacation. It came complete with sun-fade and frayed edges.

Old, faded Colorado trucker hat.

We purchase these tattered garments because we want to appear authentic and well-versed. We buy the image we want.

But then a funny thing happens as the years go by. That distressed clothing slowly merges the fake patina with the earned wear of our experiences.

Like with my hat. I take it on some real hikes. I climb to 12,000 feet. Sleep on it. And the faux wear-and-tear mixes with actual trail dust.

Branches and lake boulders strip away even more stitching. The Colorado sun partners with sweat to change the faded dark blue to a light purple.

Another view of the old hat.
Or sometimes an old hat just needs to be washed.

We become the image we set out to portray. Our clothes, our faces, our actions show all the scuffs and dings of the adventures and misadventures we’ve had. We don’t need the artificial yellowing on our jackets or the acid wash on our jeans. The sepia across our photographs.

Reminds me of the jobs we accept and then stress over. Can we handle this new task? This new challenge?

We end up dressing for the part. Acting the part. And somehow we end up pulling it off. We grow into the new role. We become the genuine article.

Surviving Encounters with Deep-Sea Creatures and Difficult People

Difficult people are an inevitable part of life. You’ll encounter them at family reunions, in the workplace, and at the mall. You may spot one in your mirror at home. 

Sometimes we have the option to block or avoid these challenging personalities. Other times we have little choice but to endure them. With no escape hatch in sight, you may wonder how you’ll survive a workday, a family trip, or a relationship managing exposure to a cranky person.  

One way to gain a more positive perspective on such a relationship is to dive deeper. Gain a better understanding of why people are the way they are.

It’s the same way with the denizens of the deep ocean. Once you discover the conditions that spawned them, it’s easier to accept some mean looks, slimy scales, and hostile interactions. 

Exploring the Murky Depths of Difficult People

Believe it or not, there are similarities between odd, defensive sea creatures and that jackass who sits in the next cubicle at work.

We know very little about the lifestyles of the inhabitants of deep water. The glimpses oceanographers have gotten haven’t been the most welcoming. Fish who need a dentist. Globby fish with glow-in-the-dark organs. 

But the strange readings aren’t all that surprising when you consider where these fish have had to spend their lives. The bottom of the ocean is a biome of crushing pressure, no sunlight, cold temperatures, and not a lot of food to be found.

To survive this kind of environment, what sort of adaptations would a fish have to undergo? We can forgive a sea monster for its appearance and biting comments when we consider the daily grind it must endure. If we can forgive a fish, maybe we can forgive people too when they appear to behave without compassion. 

The Deep Sea Pressures We Endure

Deep-sea fish have developed flexible bones to withstand the pressures of the depths. The Anglerfish displays a luminescent fin to attract dinner guests. Squid can change color to strike from the shadows or fade away from view from the larger forms that float by. Some of us can relate.

It’s not surprising that some of the jerks in our lives come with hardened shells or stinging barbs. Maybe they’ve been to the bottom. They could’ve faced some punishing environments as they bounced along the sea floor.

Sometimes by examining the motivations of unpleasant people it can help you become immune to their venom. Their comments and actions have less power over your attitude and reality. A sea monster can suddenly seem frail and desperate.

Wisdom from lower elevations

Deep Ocean Destinies We Can’t Understand

If we believe in destinies, there are other ways to view difficult people. Consider what types of tests or tempering they must endure to get ready for a difficult life journey.

You may see no reason for someone to behave the way they do, but it’s hard to know what life, or a higher being, is preparing them for. To survive what’s ahead, someone may have to slowly develop plates of armor, sharp teeth, unfounded hope, or a sensibility that doesn’t quite match up with yours.

Try not to judge someone too harshly for their behavior now. We can’t know what they are being constructed to face down the road. Preparations for their purposes might be underway. They may embark on a years-long trip into a metaphorical desert, or a barren stretch of ocean, as they get ready for the next phase of life. They may be miserable and become prickly as they wrestle with an obstacle set in their path or prepare for the next one.

Remember, intense surroundings and difficult backgrounds create the most beautiful and unique life forms. They are able to withstand conditions that would wither most mortals. Those punishing times may inspire you. The pop star with the unearthly range who sings about pain. A Coronate Medusa jellyfish who lights up like a carousel in the ocean trenches even though there’s no one to see such an unearthly display.

Beings evolve that wouldn’t exist without these turbulent forces of creation. Maybe you wouldn’t exist without the tumultuous environments that have shaped and strengthened the loved ones around you.

Perhaps those abrasive traits will provide an unexpected ally one day…lead to your rescue. A rescue that wouldn’t be mounted by any sane, well-adjusted person. Someone who isn’t a denizen of the deep.

Forgiving the Lantern Fish in Your Life

Tough circumstances aren’t an excuse for troubling behavior. There are plenty of people who go through absolute hell and yet come out as the kindest people you’ll meet. God bless those people.

But we all have our bad days. Someone may be putting up with your barbs and poisonous glands too. And not everyone who irritates you is a true villain.

We’ll have to forgive at some point, and exploring the reason someone may be less than kind is one way to gain some closure.

Stuck dealing with unpleasant people? Sometimes you have to hit the eject button and remove them from your life. But if you must endure a bad situation, or you are hanging on because you love someone, there are ways to foster understanding and acceptance. 

Identifying that it’s not you that makes this person so grumpy helps. Delving into why they are this way and what they may actually desire changes your perspective and theirs. Your effort to understand a slimy fish might change the view from its fish-eye lens.

END

Perhaps you are the difficult person. Or just someone stuck in the dark depths of life’s oceans. Check out my article on looking at these struggles in a new light and acknowledging how they often get us ready for our destinies.

A Walt Disney World Day While Working from Home

Working from home comes with a lot of perks. It’s ”Casual Friday” every day. Fewer people are burning popcorn in the microwave (unless it’s you).

The author's meager home desk.
The Happiest Place on Earth?

Avoiding a morning commute is sweet, but madness can also creep in. When punching the clock from home, you end up spending a lot of time in one room.

After quitting time, I end up returning to my home office (my mancave) with dinner in tow. Then I start Netflixing in that same room. After a while, it’s hard to mark the passage of time or the growth of hair in my ears. 

At some point, you’ll need a brain-shuffling vacation, a getaway. But until then, you can survive the doldrums of remote work by getting creative.

Make your own work holidays. Engineer certain weekly events. Why not schedule an imaginary Park day for yourself. And maybe, just maybe, you can work from home without losing your mind.

An Escape Plan from the Virtual Workplace

Cutting birthday cake in the work breakroom.

Remember when that one person in the office used to schedule all of the birthday celebrations? You may have found those frequent work wingdings annoying, but they did break up the day.

When you work from home, you have to become your own party-planning committee.  You have to schedule themed days and luncheons for yourself.

The goal is to make some days seem different from the rest. Because infinite zoom calls and power-point composition begin to weigh on the soul.

One way to add contrast to your days around the home office is to declare weird holidays. Purposely save certain traditions for one day a week. Theme one Thursday every week as an 80s party. Listen to 80s music and fix your hair differently. Cosplay on Tuesdays. Fix a full breakfast (with pancakes, of course) on Wednesdays.

Disney Day at The Home Office

Amidst the stagnant days, I’ve had to get more creative. I’ve taken one of my favorite places on earth and turned my memories into a weekly imaginary field trip.

I use Disney World as an inspiration for my “work from home” holiday because it’s a place I know well. It has almost endless facets to explore in my memories and imagination. You can use other intellectual properties for your pretend holiday if a mouse with shorts that are pulled up alarmingly high doesn’t excite you.

Disney Lanyard with Collectible Pins.
Don’t make fun of me. I may try Hummel Figurines next.

I observe my event every Wednesday, and only on Wednesday. I declare it “Walt Disney World Day.”

First, I proudly place a lanyard of Disney pins around my neck. These collectible pins serve as reminders of my trips to Disney World and the places I stayed, toured, and ate. 

I sometimes treat myself to a new pin from shopDisney or eBay and open the package on my Disney day. 

I also update my lanyard with different holiday pins on Wednesday mornings. I have pins I only display in the fall, in winter, during the Christmas season, around Halloween, and any other season worth noting.

I make a ceremony of changing them out. Rotating Mickey and Goofy pins serve as merry reminders that days are passing outside my window. Otherwise, without this cue, my brain may develop a severe glitch.

Disney World Soundtracks for my Work Day

Audio plays a big role in my Disney day. As I prep for the day, fix breakfast or lunch, I pop on a Disney World podcast. “Two Men And The Mouse,” “ResortLoop.com,” and “All About The Mouse” are some of my favorites.

Horace Horsecollar and Clarabelle Cow Tsum Tsum dolls.
Grab a new collectible every Wednesday & carry it to your desk.

At exactly 9:15 a.m. of my workday, it’s time to crank up the Disney music. In my case, I’m not looking to blast The Little Mermaid soundtrack (nothing wrong with it).

Instead, I explore the incredible background music that can be heard in each land in Disney World. Different compositions for each ride queue, for each restaurant, and for each resort. I explore dozens of tracks on my park day.

Rotate to a different park for each Wednesday you do this. Pull up the background music and audio that plays as you wait to float through Jungle Cruise. Play the cultural music that sounds off while you cross Discovery Island in Animal Kingdom. The lush scores of Hollywood Studios’ nighttime entrance music. Epcot’s Innovation Theme music and Space Mountain’s exit music are two other favorites. You’ll find your own favorite themes.

Photo of itunes Walt Disney World Official Album

The DPark radio app is a good way to access these tunes. They have one channel for background music in the park. They have another for Disneyworld shows and events.

You might also buy the Walt Disney World Official album on Itunes for some amazing themes from the France Pavilion, from Soarin’, and from Spaceship Earth.

Of course, you can find almost any Disney park track on Youtube. Hopefully, your computer has decent speakers for listening. (Did you know there’s a bathroom in Epcot that plays the original Imagination area soundtrack? It’s heard nowhere else in the park.) 

Youtube also features entire ride audio like the trip through “Living with the Land.” It’s a remarkably calming track that features the narration and the running water ambient sound. Another fave.

Disney World Theme Park App

Just like anything you enjoy too much, you should use “Disney Day” sparingly. Overuse of Disney Day can end up as a looping track that eventually leaves you bored and unfulfilled. 

Melting Dole Whip
Don’t worry. I licked it before it melted.

I mix in a few extras to keep things fresh. At 10:30 each day I check the Disney World Theme Park App and dial-up dining. I can select any restaurant, cafeteria, or food kiosk in any park and check the menu for the day.

For those that don’t know, Disney World’s big and small restaurants all feature crazy, creative snacks that change often.

Cheeseburger and pizza egg rolls.

One day you might find cheeseburger egg rolls at a seemingly boring food cart in the Magic Kingdom. Another day, you might find Bao Buns filled with philly cheesesteaks in Disney Springs.

It’s a reliable distraction to check a menu from your desk once each Disney Day. 

I also try to catch a Disney Park video on Youtube after I’m done with work. Disney Food Blog, All Ears, and Mammoth Club all post new videos daily to Youtube. Sometimes they rank every pizza served on Disney property. Other times they try the specialty drinks at the pool bar at one of the many resorts.

Make Your Own Themed Day As You Work from Home

Disney speaks to me. I’ve only been there four times in all, but I hope to go back soon. As an introvert, there are just so many hidden spots and secret menus in the four parks, the themed resorts, and Disney Springs to leave a small part of yourself in. And through my imagination and updates online, I can return to those sights, sounds, and smells each week from my virtual office. 

Groot action figure next to laptop.

What speaks to you? You could have a “Doctor Who Day” or a “Marvel Superhero Day” and pull a different collectible from your shelf to be your companion for your 8 or 14 hours of work.

Love Star Wars or Star Trek? Gilmore Girls? Design your own holiday to observe these franchises on a certain day. Travel the National Parks by Google streetview every Friday.

Look into scheduling your next trip to your favorite places on earth. A WDW trip, a cruise, or an island adventure. Once you have a date set, it’s easier to get excited about exploring those spots virtually as you work from a virtual office.

The Author standing with Stormtroopers outside of Star Tours.

You could lose roommates (or partners) with your abnormal behavior. Even your cat will get fed up. But at least you’ll be able to tell the difference between Tuesday and Wednesday.

 The End.

I wrote about how to leave a part of yourself in your most cherished Disney queues and lobbies so you never forget them. It utilizes a strategy that Voldemort uses in Harry Potter. But you don’t have to dabble in black magic to make it work for you. Find out how to leave a part of your spirit in your favorite park locations using horcruxes.

Drowning Aquaman: How Trauma In Your Life Can Reveal Superpowers

We all experience trauma in our lives and at times we can fight very hard to forget and suppress the memory of those moments. But when we try to erase the past we often miss the lesson those traumatic events taught us.

Look back to the worst moments in your life and see if you can trace a line to the next stage of your development. Someone breaks up with you and you spiral into depression. And yet, because of that pain, you end up finding your true soulmate.

Losing a job, only to find a better one, or a new career path. It’s hard to see at the time, but those crises shaped your life and ushered you to the next plateau.

Aquaman had to learn about his heroic destiny the hard way, but maybe you don’t have to.

Stepping Out Onto Thin Air to See If You Can Fly

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There are times in all our lives when we emerge from the metaphorical undergrowth to find a shaky, rope bridge over a dark chasm. It’s a common story element because it’s common in real life.

The only way to conquer the next challenge, reach the next pinnacle, is to cross that bridge. It would be nice if we could cross those bridges, learn the lessons of trauma, without being forced over. No bear chasing us. Not at gunpoint.

But if we’re honest, we might have to accept that a traumatic event is too often the only way we’ll be coaxed from our hiding spot…from safe, solid ground…from the comforting panic rooms in our minds.

Aquaman Taking That First Breath Underwater

No action figure articulation or paint detailing was harmed in this photo shoot.

Aquaman’s origin story provides an excellent example of how trauma can flush out our talents and gifts. And how, sometimes, there’s no other way to learn those tough lessons.

Aquaman is a superhero who can live underwater and reach the deepest chambers of the ocean. But he wasn’t always the King of the Seven Seas as you see him today. Arthur Curry (Aquaman’s above-water name) had a land-loving regular father and a mom from Atlantis.

He was raised by his father and didn’t know about his Atlantean ancestry at first. He discovered his powers of breathing underwater and the ability to text with fish in his youth. 

But imagine how someone who could breathe underwater would have to learn of those powers. (If no one came out and told them). There’s one obvious way for fate to intervene and make Arthur Curry aware of his Aquaman powers.

YOU CAN TRY TO DROWN AQUAMAN.

Avoiding a Jump Into the Deep End

Look at your life like chapters in a novel. How would the author of your life have to motivate your character to greatness?

Can we really blame fate, or a god, or mother nature for taking drastic measures to steer us to where we need to be? To reveal our talents and abilities?

Many of us run for a bunker anytime there’s an obstacle in our way. We hide from challenges. Avoid new experiences. Shy away from meeting new people. Give up so easily. 

What if you were a comic book deity in the DC Comics Universe and Aquaboy refused every hint that he might have aquatic-based superpowers? Perhaps he was even afraid of water. Aquaphobic.

If he won’t dip a toe in the water, how do you create an Aquaman? You might have to resort to staging an accident that forces him under the waves. Let him suffer that horrifying feeling of drowning. Take that first gulp to find that he can fill his lungs with water and abide.

We may find more in common with Aquaman than we think. He likes lowriders just like anyone else.

It’s an unpleasant thought, but sometimes some hairy moments are necessary to create a member of the Justice League.

Now, are such extreme measures necessary to get you to seek another job, exit a toxic relationship, or to move to a new city? To move on?

Trauma’s Difficult But Necessary Lessons

What’s required to get you from point A to point B? Will you have to be tossed into the icy waves to find out you can swim? Will you have to be laid off, lose a spouse, or have a favorite security blanket stripped from you? Do circumstances have to get this bad before you’ll take a leap of faith?

We often resist change so strongly that we force fate to send us overboard. God must flood our bunkers to get us up and out of our safe and comfortable hidey-holes.

Or we must reach a point where we are so miserable that we are compelled to take action. We can put up with much that is unhealthy and damaging simply because we are afraid to embark on a new journey.

Don’t always wait to get to this point.

Every now and then, test the waters. Find out if you have a latent superpower you would have never discovered otherwise. You may have wings…or gills, or just the supernatural ability to write average web content.

I wrote another tome about finding your destiny while skipping the traumatic hero origin story. It’s about accepting a signpost in the forest, a trailhead, even when the path ahead is shrouded in fog. Check it out.

Creekside Meditations

Sit beside a gurgling creek. Leaping from bank to bank. The liquid circulatory system of the earth.

The water runs over sand, mud, spillways of stone, and pebbles. Ducking into subterranean earthen corridors. Consider why the flow continues. Why doesn’t that water absorb and trickle into aquifers? 

How does the creekbed allow so much to pour over it, to pass by without letting it all soak in? Perhaps it’s a lesson we can learn and apply to our lives if we sit and listen to a stream for a while.

Pinpoint Each Splash and Drop

Begin by focusing the mind. Close your eyes and open up to the rush of the water. The dribble over stone, the crashing waves, the undulating run over a bed of small rocks. It all merges into the near-white noise of the stream. 

But let the auditory circuitry in your brain sift all of the sounds. Identify each wavelength that contributes to the whole. The splashes, the -thunk- of water dropping off a boulder. Focus on the roar of this life-giving recipe until you find it hard to hear or think about anything else.

Allow the Stream to Erode Your Thoughts

Imagine the water rushing over the deep wrinkles of your brain. Splashing down into all recesses and thought canyons, where uncataloged memories await. Let the flush of liquid and scrub of sediment reveal the long-forgotten snapshots of your past, like gold and sapphire flecks in a pan.

Allow the perpetual motion to produce energy as with the slow turn of the turbine or millstone. Harness the gentle friction of moving waters to light up parts of your frontal lobe that have gone dark.

Allow the force of scouring liquid to wash out the flotsam crowding out the surfaces of consciousness. Clear out the errant data and unconnected information to be carried downstream.

Now consider how your brain might be able to let reality, let life rush across it without soaking it in. To interact with people and events without allowing the stream of others to stain. The drama and the anger allowed to race by before it can settle.

How does a creekbed manage this feat? Let so much rush past while not ingesting too much water, without drowning and losing its very channel?

Reroute the Deleuge to Clear your Head

As a final exercise, close your eyes. Recline if possible. With a thought, transform your brain matter, thoughts, and memories into a million tiny pebbles, all the different colors of submerged stone. Each pebble or grain represents a different subset of experiences from your life. 

Sift those shaped memories with your fingers and toes for a bonus sticker.

Imagine your skull is open and now serves as the headwaters for this stream, bursting forth from your brain that is now a collection of rubble. The flow pushes multi-colored rocks out in a slow tumble, to spill on the ground. The click-and-clack of falling rock adding to the cacophony.

Each piece of your personal history now exposed to the sun, the light, the moisture. Memories allowed to exist on their own, unconnected to other parts of your unique chronology.

Each recollection left to play out endlessly in different permutations, unburdened of having to follow your continuity and match up with the next milestone on your timeline. Your thoughts disassociated for an instant.

Forever in the backyard of your aunt’s house, or sitting on the couch watching a Disney movie with your grandparents.

And when you’ve flushed out every memory you have, all settled to form a new creekbed of thought from your mind, snap your fingers. The memory stones instantly reassemble into a brain-shaped organ and refill the gap left in your head. Each memory linking, connective tissue rebonding, and the chronology of your life lining up. But now with stronger bonds. The clutter carried out.

Your skull sealed up nice and tight again.

The Healing Power of Dancing Waters

Now each memory has been worn clean, the cholesterol of misremembered details and motives sent downstream. What’s left is a more accurate account of your life, the good moments and the growth moments.

The creek has its bed to handle the flow of water but doesn’t allow it to soak through. Just as you can learn to bounce off other lives and retain the positive nutrients and memories. Let the negative keep flowing past with the constant stream of your experiences.

Flotsam and foam will gather again and that’s why meditation isn’t a cure. It’s a lifestyle. Now you have a place to return to, in the woods along a little creek or where it flows in your consciousness. A place that is suitable to cleanse the brain and reassemble memories. END

I wrote another article about the acceptance of the poisons in our lives that can’t always be kept out. It’s okay though. The streams of our consciousness are vast and fast-moving. The bad is mixed in as parts-per-million and parts-per-billion and we survive even when toxins are present. Find out how to use this restorative manta.

The Lesson of the Cancelled Flight: When Life Makes You Pause

Life doesn’t always go as we plan. And sometimes we expend a lot of physical and mental energy trying to set things back on a path that’s no longer open to us. But there are lessons to learn about accepting circumstances and finding joy in a new plan, even one you didn’t create with a phone app.

I knew this man. He never got out.

Traveling the unfriendly skies is often a microcosm of the painful fact that we don’t control everything. When weather or a mechanical issue leaves us stranded, there is the instinct to dig in, to fight tooth and nail for a spot on the next flight out.

Every now and then the effort pays off. Against all the odds, a seat opens up on another charter and an escape is made. But it’s more likely that the day is lost. The question becomes how much we’ll battle before we accept our fates.

Getting Grounded by Life

I learned this lesson after several frustrating instances of getting abandoned by my flights at airports. That dreaded notification on my phone or on a flight board caused real panic. Fight or flight set in. But there are good and bad ways to handle the curveballs life throws at you.

Those glossy floors can be cold and unforgiving.

When a flight is suddenly canceled, passengers wait in line, hop from counter to counter, skip meals, forgo hydration and bathroom breaks, desperately trying to book a train, a horse carriage, or another plane. And take it from me, travelers get treated pretty terribly in these situations.

We dig in and decide to only accept one end result; our lives exactly the way we planned them or with just the slightest alterations. But this steadfastness is often unrealistic and keeps us from learning and experiencing.

Not every memory we form in our lives will be manufactured. Life will hand you some side adventures and we must be willing to accept that they’ll replace some of the blueprints we’ve drawn up.

Genghis Khan

The flight that may or may not be at the gate becomes a metaphor. Apply it to waiting on a college acceptance letter, a dating experience, or some other major life decision. We hit pause on our lives to wait on a dream that’s unattainable while other amazing options or destinies sail by.

That Fateful Moment at The Airport Ticket Counter

You stare into that poor airline desk person’s eyes, who has served hundreds of desperate travelers like you that day. The ticket wizard makes the offer. “I can book you on a flight four hours from now. It has one free seat and five people are ahead of you for it. Do you want wait it out?”

What if your answer was “no?” You take the sure-thing flight tomorrow. You graciously accept a free hotel room and meal voucher. You grab your luggage and find the nearest shuttle. Wake up the next morning refreshed. (Pro Tip: Always carry clean underwear and socks in your carry-on.)

You accept that the day wasn’t going as expected and you wouldn’t be able to change it. You can spend the rest of your time making the most of your situation, or you can spend it wishing you could have arrived in Witchita 16 hours earlier. Your choice.

A Free Hotel Room or a Sticky Terminal Bench?

I’d take this over an airport bathroom almost every time. Think of the free body wash!

I’ve lost a flight at one airport, been sent by cab across a major metropolitan area to a second airport, only to arrive and lose another flight.

And then I finally surrendered to my fate as the sun went down. I took a free hotel room, a free meal, and a seat on a flight the next morning.

I arrived in my hotel room, took a breath, and wondered how many hours I could have spent at this same hotel room, instead of trying to nap at an airport Panera drink station. What if I’d thrown in the towel a little sooner? (All-cotton, plush, towel.)

There are times when our plans/planes are quite obviously not getting off the ground. When you stop losing your mind trying to patch up those plans and permit new ones to form. You’ll find there are pocket universes opening up you would never have explored without being pulled out of your intricately constructed schedule.

An Air Battle Worth Fighting

Free Stroopwafle With Each Flight.

Of course, there will be times when your destination is time sensitive. Your on-time arrival is critical to your life plans or someone else’s. You’ll be forced to try every route possible. The Northwest Passage. You could still end up stuck in place, but in some cases, you have to pull out all the stops.

The rock in your path may not budge. All you can do is take a breath and sit tight until rescue arrives…the storm passes…a new door opens up.

Maybe it’s the next morning. Maybe it’s next semester. Maybe it’s the next job opportunity. Maybe your plan was never meant to lift off. Perhaps you haven’t learned everything you’re meant to from your current circumstances.

Final Approach On Rerouted Life Plans

Learn to accept these forks in the road with a little less resistance. Stay curious and open. What did your surprise change of plans help you avoid? What new paths were opened up?

What color are the tater tots in your altered plans?

We must learn to better gauge when a fight will improve our situation, and when to seek shelter and perhaps some clean sheets and towels. There are also instances where we purposely sabotage any alternate route in protest of the perfect route we can’t have. Power down your indignation and accept your current location and situation.

And sometimes the hotel restaurant serves loaded tots. Your intersection with those loaded tots might never have happened if you hadn’t allowed your fate to be rebooked. END

I wrote about other signposts we come to in our journeys and how to accept their guidance.

Refusing Errant Data from Your Brain on Gloomy Days

There are days you’ll feel submerged.

Some days our brains seem to be against us. Every thought we have is brewed through a dark, dreary filter. Every positive idea gets quickly tethered to a thick knot of negativity and doubt to sink below the surface of a muddled brain.

Why do these dark days arise? They predictably follow times of great mental stress or physical exhaustion in our lives. A sleepless night or a mind-melting shift at work definitely tee them up. If you try to consider the future later that night or the next day, it won’t go well. 

The available view is usually an overly bleak reality. But are things as bad as they seem or is something temporarily infecting our thoughts?

Forecasting Gloomy Days and Cloudy Brains

In learning to identify somber days ahead of time, it’s possible to prepare for them. If they are predictable, why not get ready for them? We can learn to spot the symptoms of an approaching bad day with our own homemade advanced-warning system. With early detection, maybe there’s something we can do to head off the storm. 

A typical Monday Zoom background.

With practice, it’s not hard to anticipate these thinking-averse days. They are probably more easily identified than you think.

You may already be a pro at mental hurricane-spotting, and yet not know how to take advantage.

These raging gloomies are sure to follow times when you are exhausted, when you are hungover, or when you’ve experienced trauma. 

It’s a safe bet that anything you ponder in the aftermath or the next day will play through a cynical lens. The defeatist attitude will continue until the mind clears.

Shutting Down the Feed on Despair

You’ve probably lamented about days you should have stayed in bed. Perhaps you have to press on through your duties for your day. But you don’t necessarily have to keep brooding over questions and queries that you know will result in negative answers and anxious projections.

Why not consider taking parts of the brain off-line until the storm clears? On a Monday, when defeatist notions are dominating your brain, turn off the streaming channel of negativity.

If the brain only wants to project nightmares, it’s time we stop accepting its errant data until the signal clears up and reasonable thought resumes. 

Focus on the tasks at hand. Limit brain function to the bare necessities and resolve to fight the urge to stare at the dark horizon. It’s not easy at first, but with some practice, it’s a decision you can make.

Forecasting Storms in Your Neighborhood

I started training myself to turn off my brain’s probability generator when my thoughts turned darkest. Especially on Mondays when I would feel despair with no discernable cause. Things I would think about would seem dire and hopeless. Then, inevitably, the next day, I’d be in a much better mood, and every thought would have an equitable chance of getting fair consideration. I wouldn’t automatically assume the worse.

Break the connection for a bit.

Your brain will churn out negative thoughts. You’ll play out a series of events years down the road in your head all leading to some imagined minor apocalypse.  But what if we train ourselves to expect this cynical view on certain days. And what if we could derail a brain’s runaway train of despair. 

When we experience trauma, sweat out a night of drinking, or are actually sick, it’s critical to stop answering the mental door to accept shipments of tainted data from an impaired brain.

Realizing You’re Dreaming and Taking Control

It’s a lot like being asleep and dreaming (or amidst a nightmare) and suddenly you become aware that you’re dreaming. With this new realization, a nightmare transforms. You realize those overcast skies aren’t necessarily real. And perhaps, like in a dream, you are able to seize control, and start shaping the narrative. 

When you are trudging through a day when you know you’re more prone to nihilism, recognize your reality of the moment.

You might not be able to escape the nightmare, but at least you can recognize it for what it is and limit your reactions. Reassure yourself that the darkness will pass. Don’t trust your feelings.

The Storms You Can’t Circumnavigate

There will be tough stretches in your life when you won’t be able to pick and choose when you deal with an issue. You don’t have the luxury of waiting until you’re in a better place. That’s okay. When you shut down thoughts about fake problems, you’ll have more energy to deal with the actual issues.

An overcast brain linked to your sleeplessness, your physical exhaustion, or a stressful day. Watch for the creeping dread during recovery from surgery.

With this new recognition that you are stuck, at least for the moment, you can stop fighting the current.

Let those waves nudge you back and forth and realize you don’t have to fight back if you choose not to. Based on past experience, they won’t sink you. Once the low-pressure cell in your brain subsides, you’ll have a much easier time paddling yourself back on course.

Turn on Your Brain’s Spam Filter

Overwhelmed.

Determine to refuse delivery on those little packets of infected data on gloomy days. The more you do it, the more reflexive it becomes.

Take control by determining to focus only on the day and the circumstances of the now. The dream will pass, the fog will dissipate, and then you’ll be able to think clearly, through an un-tainted viewpoint

Put off higher thinking until you’ve got a better venue. Until you get some sleep, work through a bad patch, or get a problem removed from your life. END

I wrote about another strategy for battling the negative in life. It divides your problems into parts per million and parts per billion in order to get some perspective on your biggest setbacks. Check it out here.